Two Letters Gain Your Power
I was talking to a client recently who was sharing her frustrations of life. She was feeling completely overwhelmed with all the responsibilities she was juggling on atight schedule and an even more tight budget. When she was all finished, she asked for what I observed that was going wrong.
I was talking to a client recently who was sharing her frustrations with life. She was feeling completely overwhelmed with all the responsibilities she was juggling on a tight schedule and an even more tight budget. When she was all finished, she asked what I observed that was going wrong.
It’s a simple two letter word
No! Tiny but mighty! That little word gave me my power back and here’s how it can work for you.
Many of us have been raised to believe that saying, "No" is rude. That’s exactly how I felt.
I didn’t want to let people down. If someone had the courage to ask for my help, I wanted to reward them with an enthusiastic “Yes”. Agreeing to everything and everyone's requests is what lead me to exhaustion and feeling overwhelmed.
Here’s what I did
I learned to decline some requests. I trained myself to use that simple two letter word and this tips:
The first step along the road to the power of "no" is to become crystal clear about the value of time. Where and how do you spend it vs. how do you want to spend it?
When setting my schedule, I laid it out for the month with reserving important things like my faith, my family, my health and my business, then I know exactly where there is time to spare.
When someone asks me to do something, instead of giving a quick affirmative response, I request some time to think about it and indicate I’d respond back soon. This grace period allows time assess current obligations and availability and determine if adding in something more will still allow existing commitments to be honored fully.
The second tip is determine the level of commitment to be established; how much time, energy or resources are involved. If you are in a position to make an informed decision, then you can make a decision with specific intention instead of a snap response based on emotion. When your time is scheduled wisely, you won’t feel pressured, rushed or obligated. Most importantly, you protect yourself from feeling overwhelmed.
Last tip, if the answer to the commitment affects others, consider discussing it with them first – it’s simply a matter of courtesy and reducing jeopardizing prior commits.
When the values are clear and it’s understood that a certain amount of time will not be compromised the decision to accept or decline becomes clear. By saying "no" to some requests, you’re actually saying "Yes" to your family, to your business and to yourself. You’re saying "Yes" to having control of your resources, of your life, and people will respect that.
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